Early in my career, I approached my boss about the possibility of joining another department. It seemed like something I could really enjoy, and a leader on that team mentioned to me in passing that I would be a great fit. However, despite that, it never happened.
While I was really confused about it at the time, I’ve had a few years to think about what went wrong. And what I realized was that my approach made me seem like a selfish, “me-first” member of the team who didn’t really know what he wanted—besides out.